Episode 308 - CEO Malaysia Harrell Inspires Clients to Rise, Realign, and Lead From the Inside Out

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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Wealth the Academy podcast.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello everyone, this is your host Paul Lawrence Van, host in Wealth Academy podcast and Wealth is more than just money.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And you're going to find that out today with Malaysia around.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She's going to really, really share some great expertise.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Knowledge with and content with you and without further ado, I want to introduce her to you and then I'll go into the background.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Malaysia, good day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: How are you doing, my friend?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Hi, Paul.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I am amazing.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so much for hosting me once again on your show.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You're such a gracious host and I'm just so honored to be here today.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm honored to have you and so is the audience and we are definitely going to.

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[SPEAKER_01]: have a great time.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I want people to also know that we were both cohorts in a speaker coaching program.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Malaysia, just a bit.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She got to know me just a bit.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we've just went from start to finish with our presentations.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And it just made us better people and better speakers for sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I feel like

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, we really developed a bond during that experience and almost like a brother, sisterhood because knowing that we're both veterans like that just really.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So little five, the relationship.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So today, we're honored to have with us an extraordinary leader who embodies resilience, transformation and purpose.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Malaysia Harald, she is a board certified psychotherapist, spiritual transformation coach, keynote speaker,

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[SPEAKER_01]: Last moment, Arthur, she is the author of the book, God has my sixth.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She is an award winning entrepreneur, philanthropist and proud U.S.

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[SPEAKER_01]: military veteran, go U.S.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Air Force.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Malaysia has dedicated her life to helping high-achieve in women, veterans, leaders, and individuals everywhere.

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[SPEAKER_01]: reclaim their identity, align with their purpose and heal from the inside out.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Her impact has been recognized nationwide with features on ABC, CBS, Yahoo, and her role as a VIP executive contributor for best holistic life magazine.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now everyone get ready because today's conversation is all about healing, transformation, and unlocking your true power.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Malaysia is great to have you here and your background is normal first and powerful for military service in psychotherapy to entrepreneurship.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Can you share the pivotal moment that sets you on this transformational path?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I sure can, you know, and you know a little bit about my story, you know, but but like so many people, you know, we're just kind of going through life, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: We've set off on this path.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And we've been given this assignment.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And sometimes life becomes a blur.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was very, very successful on the outside.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, have all the things.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But the pivotal moment was when I had a near death experience in twenty twenty after following returning home from deployment.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And that just really set the stage for me to reflect on my life.

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[SPEAKER_02]: just to really get more clarity and more guidance on how I needed to proceed and move forward.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Because again, I feel like I was moving through life.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I was successful on the outside, but on the inside, I was struggling a bit because I was trying to mask some things from my own traumas and life that I experienced.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So that was the pivotal moment when I was sat down.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That was a very important time frame as well because it really gave added more to your foundation in terms of who you are.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It really did because I was the helper, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, helping everyone else like we tend to do, but it's not until you actually sit down.

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[SPEAKER_02]: to look at your own wounds and look at your own healing journey.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So where you're able to relate to people a lot differently, you're able to empathize with them a lot more.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so although I wouldn't have wanted to go through that, I think it was important.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And one of the things that I looked at, I know what you had experienced.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know how it felt, but I know what you experienced.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And there was someone I saw on a Dr. series recently, a bomb rocker.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And he had a few ass.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I didn't know that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: a deeper mature.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, your book God has my sixth hasn't full on many and will inform many.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What is the personal story or experience that will answer you to write it?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, and this is interesting, Paul, because, you know, me, like everyone else who writes a memoir, we think, oh, I'm just gonna help the masses.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna be obedient.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna put the message out there so that it could also help other people who need to go through their own healing journey or who've overcome that journey and now are on the next phase of transformation for their lives.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, I did not realize how challenging it would be emotionally, spiritually to actually look at this and put this on paper and to actually give it over to someone else.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, this is my memoir.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It really talks about that journey of healing, following my near-death experience.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's really a blueprint and a mechanism to help others to overcome their own

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[SPEAKER_02]: traumas and their own, you know, things that, you know, challenges in life.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So it's just, it was just, it's my give back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It is my gratitude journal because I made it through and I'm here to say that especially with our suicide rates and the veteran community.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm here to say that you can make it through too.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not going to say that it will be easy, but I'm saying that with some support with some spiritual guidance and with some healing and some, you know, all the therapies that you have available to you that you can make it through as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and if you could share for those people who are not in the military, what God has my six has my six, what does that mean?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, so everybody, a lot of people ask me that question, and so as you know, in the military, when you look at your positioning, you know, we use the clock.

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[SPEAKER_02]: to determine different positioning.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So if you say, do you have my six, that means you have my back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And during your healing journey and any transition or transformation you're going through, it's going to feel lonely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's going to be a very lonely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And to know that God has my six God has my back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It is an anchor for you to know that no matter what I go through, no matter what pillars of darkness or tunnels that I go down, God has my sins always.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's a very powerful statement too.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now we hear it, like I've heard it in the military before, but when you add God to it, it's easy.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Or the first time I heard you say that, and I said, I've never heard anybody else say that before.

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[SPEAKER_01]: God, I ask you to fix.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it has so much meaning.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And you bring it to life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And of course, as you stated, it's about your life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And when we right knows memoirs, we're actually going back.

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[SPEAKER_01]: looking in the review mirror at our lives.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, you've made it your mission to help people heal from the inside out, which is very important.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What does that truly mean and how can someone begin that journey themselves?

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[SPEAKER_01]: So, this one is really good.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Healing from the inside out really means to just have a high level of awareness and reflection.

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[SPEAKER_02]: on where you've been, where you are now, and where you're going.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But also looking at it from a perspective of being in alignment with your divine assignment.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Many of us, we're very successful on the outside, what society deems a successful.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But what does success really mean to you if you don't have peace, if you feel like you're empty inside and you're struggling.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So when you're in alignment with your divine assignment, and that's something, you know, the art of surrender,

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[SPEAKER_02]: is one of the biggest things I've learned when you decide to walk in that calling and be obedient.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It won't feel like work.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It'll feel like a calling.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Will it be challenging?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But in order to do your assignment, you need to be prepared.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You need to grow in order to accept that assignment.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so how we do that is really looking at, you know, all pillars of wellness of your life and how taking a pulse

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[SPEAKER_02]: And how you're fearing in those now, are you making money, but your relationships are not well, are you making money?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you again, you don't feel like you're accomplishing anything.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You feel like your soul is being sucked out of you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So we really just take a step back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And when in therapy, you know, being a psychotherapist for almost thirty years, one of the things we learn is that with mass laws hierarchy of needs, is what do you need initially?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Your food clothing and shelter.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So if you're struggling,

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[SPEAKER_02]: whether it's inside or outside, you know, if you're struggling, we're looking at, okay, let's dial that back a little bit.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We really need food clothing and shelter.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Do we need to do all the other things that we're doing?

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[SPEAKER_02]: So we're basically taking us that back and looking at a deep level of reflection and then looking at a plan that specifically for that individual person on pulling back those layers and getting rid of some of that baggage and trauma,

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[SPEAKER_02]: that, you know, you may have stored up that you don't even know and it's coming out in other ways such as your health, you know, it's coming out, you don't understand why am I getting these headaches, why am I getting, you know, all of these other things and so just really dialing that back and setting up a plan that's specific for you to help you with your own journey.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely, my body and spirit.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I was having a conversation with my cousin yesterday, he's a retired Marine.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And what he and I was we're talking about was the fact that I told him I said, well, what you learn is that a lot of people who are at the top, the only is people on the planet.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it's so doubt into what they're doing.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's how

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[SPEAKER_01]: They run through that situation where you have to work with them from the inside out.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's correct.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, because they think too close to what they can't see it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, and you and honestly when you when you talk about that when you're in alignment and you're looking at your spiritual pulse.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It won't feel lonely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It won't feel lonely at all because you'll be connected to your higher power and it won't feel that way.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And a lot of times, especially in the military, like we have to be around people, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: But sometimes when you transition out of that, are you around the right people to where you are now?

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[SPEAKER_02]: So the people that you need to be around now is not necessarily the people that you were with.

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[SPEAKER_02]: all these other years with the book, what got you here won't get you there.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So, and yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So, one of the things that I know that you help people with you lead listful life coaching, if you could share more about that particular aspect of your business as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so this whole life consulting is a holistic mental health and wellness solutions that we provide to individuals groups and organizations.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We also do corporate wellness and leadership development, but it's basically there to provide wellness solutions to ensure that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, your people are well at all times.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so whatever we can do to ensure that level where wellness, we provide those services.

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[SPEAKER_02]: In addition, we do provide coaching, as you mentioned, coaching services as well to include workshops and retreats.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, that's wonderful.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that that gets people out of that normal work today, space and put it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That will give them some new perspectives.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, they've taken a net that content as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, what are the aspects?

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[SPEAKER_01]: I know we talked about you've been in the military earlier, but you also commissioned officer as a part of the PHS and the PHS Foundation.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Could you share more about that for our listeners so they can learn more about that note?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely, I'll be happy to.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I started my career in the United States Air Force Air Power, which you are a retiree as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I went in after nine eleven, of course, like many people did.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And after about over seven years, I had made major, but I didn't end up pinning on.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I transitioned into United States Public Health Service.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And many people don't know

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[SPEAKER_02]: Why I did this, but I'll tell you here today.

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[SPEAKER_02]: My brother, I had a brother and he was tragically taken from us.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And that day, you know, it really set us on a different path as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That was in two thousand eight.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And again, I had a period of reflection at that time too.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But my father, I didn't want to see my family very another

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[SPEAKER_02]: child not that I couldn't be taking away at any time, but if I was to go to Afghanistan at that time, I thought it would be pretty challenging on my family.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I ended up transferring to the United States Public Health Service and that is a uniform service.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It is one of the now eight now that we have the space force.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That is one of the eight uniform services under the Health and Human Services and the Surgeon General of the United States, which I had an opportunity to work with for directly.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So the United States Public Health Service, we provide protect the health and safety of our nation.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so we deploy for man-made and natural disasters.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I've had an opportunity to deploy for many different instances

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, but I will say that the United States Public Health Service doesn't get enough accolades.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I am on the Board of Trustees for the Commission Officer Foundation and you know, just to know that the work that our service did to support not only COVID-nineteen, but Ebola.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Our officers were in an absolutely an in protected our country.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Our country would have been, you know, a lot of us could have been taken out from that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I really want to promote it because again, without

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[SPEAKER_02]: the health and safety of our nation, you know, we can be taken out with our health alone, with just water alone, you know, and so yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, people have a lot of planes and people on ships and it can impact anyone.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So that was really the front lines.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I remember Frank, for sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's a little different because our officers are stationed at many different government agencies.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so you'll see them in Navy uniforms.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I remember, you know, going to the VA and people will see me in my uniform.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And they'll say, you look maybe, but you're not Navy like they can't understand.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, live in the retirees.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so yes, that is one of the running jokes we are not the Navy, but in times of crisis,

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[SPEAKER_02]: We can be, you know, put under the Department of the Navy, you know, and an emergency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, because I remember when nine or eleven took place and I had been out of country for a couple of weeks.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know, early yet, and I went to, at that time was Bethesda Medical Center now, now it's Walter Reed.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I went there to the door and I said, well, I need to be treated because I was sick after that, twenty four hour flight.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's okay.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It reaches the state of emergency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So at that point, you all activated.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You all are by the activated at that time.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, we have people activated right now, you know, for all, again, the man made for any of the mass shootings, like we deploy for those as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So it's just one of the services that is not talked about too much.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But during the President Obama administration, we did get awarded the president, one of the presidential metals, the puck.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, the health standards of presidential service metal.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, congratulations.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that is very important because without our health, we really don't have that much.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We have really great health.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So thank you and your cohorts and colleagues for what they do.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Really.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, I'm just now.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm just here to support.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm no longer active doing.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But my hats go off to them, especially during this time.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Sure.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Fantastic.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now you are.

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[SPEAKER_01]: help a lot of high achieving women and veterans who are often carry silent struggles.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What unique challenges do you see them facing and how do you help them overcome the obstacles?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, I am at struggle.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's such a good question because when you put the word veteran, because I help women and veterans for my coaching, but for our wellness, we do it, you know, for everybody.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But for the, when you add veteran that adds another layer of complexity,

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[SPEAKER_02]: due to the different experiences that people have over their lifetime over their career.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Whether they've served one day or they've served twenty years or more, my head does go off to our veteran women.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I can say, wholeheartedly, you know, with looking at that, would you talk about the challenges?

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I experienced it firsthand myself as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I'm not removed from that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But our voices are not always heard.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, you know, for instance, when I had my near death experience, I was hospitalized in the in the medical in the military medical center.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I had sepsis and sepsis is a highly deadly disease.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And they tried to send me home.

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[SPEAKER_02]: They said in a psychiatrist to evaluate me.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, there are the military sexual traumas that still go on and not specifically to just women.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So all different genders, but I will say that there is a different level of complexity and what I do is just provide space.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You're really a guy, you're a support system and from someone having the clinical, we aren't all and the personal experience, you know, I'm there to just really hold space and

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[SPEAKER_02]: Last year, specifically, you know, I founded the Malaysia Herel Foundation and we provide these wellness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We provide, yeah, we provide these wellness services to veteran women, specifically and other underrepresented communities for mental health and wellness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And we did a mobile spa retreat unit.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so at that event, we addressed, and again, it was fully self-funded and from the organization and from donations from the community members.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And people were like, we need this so much more, but it was just a space.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, we talked about all pillars of wellness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We had people from the community.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody donated their time, their money, their funds.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And it was just a space where women were celebrated.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I like programs like that and your foundation, of course.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think it's paid on quite a few and the audience just loves it because it's something they're not used to receiving.

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[SPEAKER_01]: something.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, here's the thing Paul, we can complain and say, you know, these things happen to me and I'm so upset.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And of course, I thought that at one point, too, like I, you get angry, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's part of the grieving process.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But at the same time, who are the people who are actually supposed to be on the front lines of service for this?

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's us.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's the community.

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[SPEAKER_02]: The government, these all these agencies and corporations, they can't do it alone.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And we learn that in the service, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: One team, one fight.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So we all band together as a team, whether it's male, female, different ethnicities, we can really come together.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what I really decided, you know, instead of being angry about my experience, I said, well, who's better to, you know, write policy and impact policy?

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[SPEAKER_01]: to local level.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But me and the people in my cohorts and people like you who understand and so you know everybody who doesn't have a pulse on the front line is not necessarily going to know what the needs are.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that that's us.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're going to band together.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're going to support each other.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're going to provide the services that are needed for our people for our humanity in general.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, everybody.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's everybody.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Because a member serves on duty, they also have families.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so their part of the military community is absolutely absolutely absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: They serve as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: No, as both a cycle therapist and spiritual transformation coach, how do you balance science and spirituality when guiding your clients?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, this is a good one.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So what I found is that over the many years of doing psychotherapy and performing services, we really do talk therapy and we're really just coming from a mental and mindset perspective.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So it's very what I okay.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I'll give you this analogy.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Most people who lose a lot of weight gain it back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I just watch that documentary on the biggest loser.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's out there now.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Many of those individuals have gained the weight back in plus.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's because we just changed.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We worked on the mindset and if you work on mindset that is very temporary.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But when you are looking at your spirituality and your purpose and we're not talking about religion here.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Because people think, oh, well, I don't go to the minute I, we talk about, you know, you're doing your bio cycle of social assessment and people are saying, well, I haven't been the church.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But you know, there's people who are very religious who are very disconnected from their higher power.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so it's not a level of

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[SPEAKER_02]: you know, the rituals that are done.

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[SPEAKER_02]: The rituals are part of it because it helps enforce it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But it is not the only key.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And once you start to get that connection, you get downloads.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So your intuitive abilities is something that's free, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so you'll have these intuitive abilities to make decisions

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[SPEAKER_02]: on a higher level.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what will give you true freedom and true peace.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so if you get this shiny penny job, that's going to offer you all this money.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But inside, your gut is telling you, oh, I'm not sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, you feel great.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Exactly.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so you made the decision not out of trauma, not out of fear, but out of true intuition, true alignment.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Then you, your life just flows so much better, although you have challenges, it just flows a little bit differently.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Bring it up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Authenticity and purpose as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's get into that great day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We call it July, a team, the speaker showcase.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we're at the Silver Spring at the AFI Theater.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And you deliver to your amazing, amazing keynote.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Talk about that just a bit in terms of, and the title of it is unmasked, becoming who you were always meant to be.

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[SPEAKER_01]: here with the viewers and the listeners exactly the foundation of the speech, what inspired and what inspired you to write it?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So this one, it was very personal.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I was very emotional during that speech for though I have a recording of it, a very emotional.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I had been doing speaking.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And not a way to work in ways that it was amazing.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I heard it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so I have been speaking a long time, of course, even as an active duty member.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But of course, you had to be who you were in uniform, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: So you couldn't always be your authentic self and bring in all of your beliefs.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so this was just a moment to really get connected with my authenticity and the message that God has given me to deliver to the world.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And like I was saying before, including myself, a lot of us are just surviving.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're in survival mode.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're doing what we need to do and we're doing what we think we need to do to survive.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And once you go back to remembering, because a lot of us, we had a gift when we were little, but because life came at us, we had to do like I said, survive.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's really getting to a point where you're doing that assessment, you're doing that internal review and looking at how can I thrive because God has given me this gift and when I use that gift that is free and it's something that only I have no one has my particular gift that is allowing you a true level of freedom and to be able to move into that thriving stage.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so you just remembering and coming back to your true self.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I was able to deliver that speech.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And of course, Dr. Cheryl would, you know, being in that court, it was just such a blessing because she really helped us to refine our message.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think, again, I've heard from so many people from that day and it has opened up so many other opportunities to speak as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I want to share with people about Malaysia.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as we were all getting ready, we had practice prior to the keynote delivery.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And all of us had little nerves and all of us like, oh, gosh, we got to go through it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But she got up there and she delivered.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She not only delivered, she over delivered.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we were all just so happy for her, the audience.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It was really amazing.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as she stated, for those of us who have been in the military and even those in professions, we have to take that mask off.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We can't be our true selves because we have to kind of stay in line with the organization, vision and mission and goals.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But when I call a blockbuster, the rest and those who were in that attendance at the AFI theater there at the Silver Spring, they were really received a great gift.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And for those of you who are listening and have an organization, you need to really hear Malaysia Harrell's keynote address.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She can deliver it to all.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so much and thank you for saying that thank you for all of your support because I talked me and you really got to talk a lot during the process and because I was I was nervous I was very nervous

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it was a full circle moment because they were having a retirement ceremony for a PHS officer there and so it was it was even more so like I was made for such a timeless and one of the things I've always said during all of my promotions or my wars because I've been very successful again on the outside is that you can't get to where you are without your people.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So when we talk about leadership and

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[SPEAKER_02]: all the people that showed up that day for whether you showed up for me or someone else.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You all that energy that you brought to the table helped all of us thrive because I will tell you, Paul, Mr. Paul.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You did your thing, okay?

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[SPEAKER_02]: You lit that stage up.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It was like being at a Tony Robbins event, or less brown event.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's the way I felt.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I felt like I was in the vicinity of greatness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And they said, you are the sum of the five people around you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And because we had ten people in that cohort, I felt like I was on top of the world with the great giants of speaking.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I did it well and I just we all just everyone all ten of us we just just went on there and delivered and as you stated with the co-chair woods she's the best of the best.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean when you you a co-spire her you want to do your best.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh listen and her.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Listen, listen, so it's funny that you said that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I was really nervous in front of her and I had went over just a tiny bit and she's looking like, you know, that mom, like, get up to stay, you know, she still supportive.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I actually had a partnership with with another organization more recently and she was the host.

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[SPEAKER_02]: She hosted and I was the keynote for that for partnership.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And our sponsorship that they sponsored.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I didn't realize that she was going to be, you know, like, you know, she read my bio.

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[SPEAKER_02]: She helped facilitate at the end of it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: She helped facilitate the conversation and talk about the partnership.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was nervous again.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, Oh, shoot.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I got to do

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[SPEAKER_02]: Good.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, no.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But again, Irish harp is iron.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We say that all the time.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I will say if you are in a transitional state, but be around other people that are really trying to grow as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I totally agree.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And like mine, that people, people haven't in the same direction, the positivity, the support and the growth.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's growing, which is really good.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Of course, well, congratulations on the recent event that you could just spend in with Dr. Woods.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my God.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Here we go.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Again, opportunities are just open up once because when I first started, I was nervous.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't want to tell my story.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't want to be vulnerable.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But I'm like, I was two hundred and fifty four pounds.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I had nine surgeries.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I had bells and paulsy.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I was on oral chemo.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, and so I was shielded from the world because it was during the pandemic and so no one actually saw that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: They didn't know what happened to me.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so people always just when you go on social media, people see the highlights and they see

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, which Dr. Wiss says is your chapter fourteen, you know, and they didn't see the like you climb and out of the dirt climbing out of darkness trying to be yourself out of there.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I don't want to give this facade as everything's all gray, everything's perfect.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You have to continue to do the work to even show up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and sometimes sometimes in life it's not so much that it's a quicksand, but it's more or less a test.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a tough faith in New York.

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[SPEAKER_03]: It is.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It is.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's four to two.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and let's make it different.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then when you look in the review mirror and all the work that we put into the coaching, it was like, it was worth it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It was worth every

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[SPEAKER_02]: Every sentence every ounce of energy.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And again, when you continue to grow, you get even more clarity because these opportunities open up.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, you're thinking, how am I going to do this?

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[SPEAKER_02]: I can't leave this job that's draining me.

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[SPEAKER_02]: because it's paying the bills, but you know, just do start with doing something that you absolutely love.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's when you're a career creative space.

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[SPEAKER_02]: If it was dancing, if it was music, and it was already clear.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Just start doing that and you will see what that purpose is.

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[SPEAKER_01]: One of the things I want to share Malaysia is that your work has been highlighted on major platforms, and I think I wasn't part of before like ABC, CBS, and Yahoo, what method are you most passionate about sharing with these audiences when you go to what works and their affiliates?

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[SPEAKER_02]: You said so which ones do I which method do I like the best?

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[SPEAKER_01]: It was you you've been on a major media platform like ABC CBS and Yahoo what what message are you most passionate about sharing with the audiences?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I am most passionate about sharing the the purpose and authenticity so taking your pain

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[SPEAKER_02]: and basically transforming it to your purpose, but in an authentic way.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So the thing about it is if you have an opportunity to create your life, why would we not do it the way that we would want it?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I do this meditation with my clients and when I do speaking engagements or I do, you know, continuing education trainings,

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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's called the perfect day.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And what I do is I lead you through this meditation and people are like tearful during that meditation.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And most of the people when we ask people to share what it is that their day look like they're not saying, oh, I sign this.

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[SPEAKER_02]: multi-million dollar deal or I just bought my dream house.

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[SPEAKER_02]: No one says that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: They say, oh, I got to spend time on the beach with my children and my family.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, it is like the basic necessities and things that help you truly thrive in life.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I love talking about that.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I love sharing my story of overcoming

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[SPEAKER_02]: because again, especially during the current times, during the past, I don't know, I say seven years, even before the pandemic, we have this loneliness epidemic that our previous surgeon general put out that call to action for the loneliness epidemic.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And with the age of social media and the things that you see that comes out on the media, a lot of times we feel more lonely than ever.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so how can we feel connected

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[SPEAKER_02]: during a time when people are most disconnected.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we know that we know we experience COVID, but there may be something else coming down the line.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So we have some experience, but sometimes it's just a pain for experience for us all.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, many leaders struggle with aligning their personal identity and professional purpose.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What advice would you give them to bring them both into harmony?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Not only their personal identity, but their professional purpose.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What advice would you give them to bring into harmony?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so I again, I think.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Going back to basics and learning who you truly a lot of times that takes some deep work because you're so inundated with what you have going on that you're not aware.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I say practicing mindfulness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Again, each day five minutes of gratitude journaling reflecting on your day.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And as you continue to do that, and this seems so trivial, you're a problem.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, really, that's what you're going to say to me, you know, but that's why as therapists, we have you do it because it's very important.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You're going to start to see things.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And in times like when you first wake up and right before you go to bed, that's when you start to get all this information because you're most close, you know, to your subconscious level, you cannot not get answers when we're

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[SPEAKER_02]: in our conscious level.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's on the inside.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So that's why you have them in your dreams.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That's why you have them in times when your most closest to your time to go to sleep.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I would just start there and practicing that mindfulness.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And once you do that, you'll start everywhere you go, once you start to get in tune, you'll feel what's right for you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So some people who are transitioning out of the service or transitioning from one career to the other or have a question about it, I have to go to all these networking events.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I have to do and you don't feel it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It doesn't feel good.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I feel my energy is lost when I go in those environments.

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[SPEAKER_02]: There is going to be that one time that you need to go to something.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And what I always say is, what is for you will never miss you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It will not miss you at all.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And when you're in alignment, you may meet somebody at the grocery store at the post office.

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[SPEAKER_02]: When you're in line at a speaking engagement.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So what is for you will not miss you, but getting clear.

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[SPEAKER_02]: and getting that spiritual download on what is for you and being obedient to it.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We don't we ask God for something.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We're not prepared for the answer because it's not the answer that I want.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so and so we're not obedient and we keep beating our heads up against the wall for years when you were told to do something, leave that job, leave that relationship, whatever is supposed to be.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And yes, so once you get the information

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[SPEAKER_02]: I need you to be obedient with what it says.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care if it doesn't feel comfortable or not.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We have a few comments in the, you know, I'd like to read them coming all the way from Italy, you know, in Malau, in that area.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's one of them states a quest we had.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Only sometimes you just can't evaluate and solve your problems alone.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If you've got a problem, but you discuss and deal with someone you trust and rely on the solution might be easier and that came from Cecilia.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I love that Cecilia and and that's so true.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And one thing I would encourage Cecilia with the add-on to that, when you're going through these times, make sure that you were saying that you trust, trust is very, very important.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That is something that I'm so happy that you highlighted, because I didn't have trust in the medical system.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So how could I heal in an environment that helped facilitate the sickness?

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[SPEAKER_02]: You don't need to help facilitate it, but you don't have to.

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[SPEAKER_02]: that didn't validate, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that is very important.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So it may not be the people that know you currently, because where you're going is no longer where you are now.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And those people cannot see that version of you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Only you know, and God knows what that version of you looks like.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so if you've known me for this, you know, in this realm,

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[SPEAKER_02]: Then it's going to feel very uncomfortable because it's going to feel like a loss when we no longer go out and hang out and do happy.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I wasn't doing that for years anyway, but whatever that was that you were doing all that time, you may not do it in the same way, but there may be some people who are also on that elevation journey and you do it together.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely absolutely and another question is a comment I think it's about it's it came from another question.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I think it's not longing for something and trying to achieve it what Malaysia called the purpose So looking at what what when's purpose is and in the lining also with that person that purpose and with the passion one has for life as well

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[SPEAKER_01]: So we want to do that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That'll change your life.

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[SPEAKER_02]: That will change.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I thought I was going to be a senator on the hit.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Like I was really wanting all these things, you know, these title.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Of course, I wanted to help change humanity as well.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But can I do that with my nonprofit as opposed to having to adhere by certain

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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, thought processes, you know, you can go with the mission of whatever the mission that God gave you, it changes the game.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but you can also lead to someone that you develop and you elevate through the coaching and through the programs, they may be the ones that take it forward.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_02]: It's the people who are around you, the people who, because even with the people that I work with, of course, I see long-term relationships there.

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[SPEAKER_02]: They may be facilitating some of the things within the programs.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, yeah, just being mindful of even the connections that you're making.

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[SPEAKER_02]: You never know who that person you need or who needs you to get to that next level.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely, absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I tell you, we're getting close to closing out this episode, which is a wonderful episode by the way.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you have some final words for the viewers and listeners that they can carry with them?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Given today's climate, we have a lot of challenges in life and maybe you can provide some words to wisdom to people that just keep going forward or

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I'm glad you said that, you know, there's a lot of challenges right now.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm so glad that you have this platform to be able to put positivity and light into the universe, you know, into the atmosphere, because it's very, very, very important.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And so what I would say is during any times of challenge, any times of strength, that is the time to really sit back

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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, hold space for not only yourself, but for your fellow humans around you, hold space.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody is dealing with something.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't care when they look like everybody is dealing with something.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And if someone treats you with certain way, just know that that may be coming from their own source of pain.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So just having a level of empathy and grace for yourself and others,

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[SPEAKER_02]: and looking at what can even if you're struggling, okay?

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[SPEAKER_02]: What can I do to so one little seed of light, of love, of gratitude, into humanity and into society?

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[SPEAKER_02]: It is really up to us to be the change that we want to see in the world, right?

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[SPEAKER_02]: Is what God can have in mind in one of my rooms.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So I can see that every day, but you are the change.

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[SPEAKER_02]: The change starts with you.

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[SPEAKER_02]: So no matter what you see in the world, just know that it all comes back to you in decisions that you make every single day, maybe you're baking some cupcakes and you're giving them to all the neighbors so that when they're going through things or bringing them into work.

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[SPEAKER_02]: But either way, the change starts with you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, absolutely.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That's so well stated.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so impactful because people people really need to hear that because oftentimes they don't.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so you made a difference, Malaysia.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And Malaysia, thank you for sharing your wisdom and powerful story with us today.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, you're welcome.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Your book God has my six.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Along with your life's work is a testament to the strength, resilience, and faith.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It takes the heel from the inside out.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Your journey reminds us that true transformation begins with end and that living with purpose is not just possible, but it's necessary.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That's the same.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you, and salute you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We are so gracious with your time, your talent, the expertise, wisdom, knowledge, abilities, everything.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And my, my time is up and I thank you for yours and I'll ensure that when I have the show notes that I put all of your contact information in there.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you could just share what your website is right now.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Sure.

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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm located on most on probably most platforms, Malaysia, HRL mostly on Instagram and TikTok and of LinkedIn, Malaysia, HRL.

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[SPEAKER_02]: And my websites are Malaysiaherail.com, especially for speaking engagements and tours, and blissfullifeconsulting.com for mental health and wellness services.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Fantastic.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And again, here's a book.

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[SPEAKER_01]: God has my six outstanding.

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[SPEAKER_01]: and she fulfilled the obligation today to deliver a masterpiece and she did.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we are very thankful for who I'm a laser at her out for the future.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And before we go, we have a permit here from Society of Sussex.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you, you are amazing.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you, Cecilia, as are you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I want everyone to go out to episode, this will be episode three, oh eight, go to Apple Podcast, go to Spotify, go to Amazon, music, and whatever you get to your podcast and listen to this episode, recommend it to your family, your friends, your colleagues, your clients, because this is one that they really can't afford to miss.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I encourage them to do so.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Again,

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[SPEAKER_01]: My time is up and I thank you for yours.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Have a great day everyone.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll see you on the next episode of Wealth Academy podcast.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Have a wonderful evening from Malaysia.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: God bless you Paul.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for listening to this episode with Paul and his guest.

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