Episode 316 - How I Learned That Consistency, Not Motivation, Builds Legacy

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[SPEAKER_01]: Good day, good day, everyone.

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[SPEAKER_01]: How are you doing?

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's Paul Lawrence, Ben.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to have to speak to be with me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's just another beautiful day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a great day to be alive, especially today, because I want to share something with you that's going to shift the atmosphere.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And this particular episode is titled, How I Learn That Consistency, Not Motivation, Bill's Legacy.

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[SPEAKER_01]: and I'm honored to have you here and of course our mantra is wealth is more than just money.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's get started.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So welcome to the wealth academy podcast where we remind you that wealth is more than money, it's mindset, mission and mastery.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm your host Paul Lawrence Van and today I'll be diving into a truth that separates dreamers from legacy builders, consistency, not motivations,

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[SPEAKER_01]: Motivation and get you started.

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[SPEAKER_01]: There's no doubt about that, but consistency keeps you going when the applause fade, when no one's watching, and when the results are slow to show up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Whether you're leading a team, building wealth, trying to change your life, consistency is the branch between goals and greatness.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So today we'll be unpacking what I've learned about showing up day after day after day, even when the excitement fades and how the discipline has shaped my personal and professional legacy.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now I want to take you on this journey primarily because you also are on a journey.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so if we'll behold you to really take some notes, pull out that a note pad and a pin, a pencil,

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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get started.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So one of the things to consider is what does consistency really mean to you and how has it shown up in your leadership journey?

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[SPEAKER_01]: And what I want to do is share what has been like for me, and I think it's very important what consistency really means.

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[SPEAKER_01]: For example, you all know that I've been working since the age of 10.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So my parents were both very hard working people and they had very strong work ethics.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My mother worked for a factory for 28 years.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My dad for 27 in the same company.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So they would leave

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[SPEAKER_01]: and go to work every day and then come back every day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I learned from them, and at the age of 10, they started a grocery store called Vans Grocery.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I was disciplined.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I did not have at the school activities.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I barely had enough time to do my homework because I was working in the store.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But day after day, we got the week.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I got better at what I did.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, it became very consistent.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And what happens with consistency is that you're in essence building a system, a system of consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I would know I would go to school, come home, open the store up, the vendors would show up, the people who deliver the bread, the ice cream, the fish every Thursday, so does, you name it, can, good, you name it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I built up a consistency and also built up a consistency of pandem and then extending credit to some of the citizens in the local community because it was a community grocery store where people didn't have to go to a big box grocery store for their food and at that time they weren't many that existed.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Some people you may have heard of this grocery store chain called Higgling Widdly.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I can't you not Higgling Widdly and some still exist to this day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But we shifted the atmosphere and that we started a community grocery store where people didn't have to have a vehicle to go to to the big box grocery store and they would come to us and people all throughout our community, which was really great.

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[SPEAKER_01]: at the high school.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I started a little bit late when I was 15 and a lot of my peers already had five, six, seven years of experience on me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I had to learn fast.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so consistency was the key for me getting caught up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I think I was really born with natural talents as it pertains to sports because I could run all day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then I added weight lefty consistency and I became stronger.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And when I started, I planned football as maybe 160 pounds.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then when some of my colleagues and our peers on the football team got together, we left the waste every day and my weight went up to 200 pounds.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And by the time practice started for the football season, I was seeing a year, I had dropped down to 165 nothing but muscle, but it was consistency that really won the day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now what did this have to do with today?

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[SPEAKER_01]: What it has to do with today is because of the life lessons that I learned.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I was consistently learning something new.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm from a family of 10 children, five boys and five girls from my parents.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I've never had an engagement in terms of teamwork.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was the second oldest child in the family, so I was always leading my younger siblings.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But when I got on the team, I had to learn how to be a teammate, how to follow.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Then at times, have to leave.

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[SPEAKER_01]: listen to my coaches, listen to the press where school everything was clicking so that was consistency and you know it's consistency because it works and when it works you know that's consistency that had to do with it and our team was very very good doing my senior year and we wanted a lot of games and went to this state playoffs and so we were really good but again life lessons that I learned.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then it was time to graduate from school.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And academics was number one on my list, after I worshipped at the house of worship in our family, because we had to as children, we were told to make sure you do good in school, make sure you attend the house of worship on Sunday, and also to have self-respect

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[SPEAKER_01]: So you can respect, position yourself to respect others, especially your elders.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And all of these things happen.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And again, getting that spiritual base under me was consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My parents wanted to see consistency because they know that behavior is a major thing that happens especially for a young man, such as myself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, all of this consistency added up to me saying, I think after high school, I want to go to college.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I repeat, no idea how I was gonna go to college with no money.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My parents had 10 children.

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[SPEAKER_01]: How could that, my parents never provided a pity, but through consistency of obtaining a job, the summer before I attended college my freshman year, I was able to raise money, then I apply for grants and I won grant, and then I received some money from my family members when I graduated from high school.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so once I arrived,

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[SPEAKER_01]: at college, I had a job there.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Not a job from the school, but from a hot one of my school, one of the teachers that had a brother-in-law who owned a electrical company.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So they were, he was teaching me electrician, how to be electrician in my freshman years.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I did that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So again, it's very similar to what I did in middle school working in my parents' store.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So

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[SPEAKER_01]: What are the consistencies that exist in your life that you can point to that positions you to be where you are today?

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[SPEAKER_01]: And we know you in a much better position now than when you grew up like me and I didn't have a pot to cook in.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so as a result,

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[SPEAKER_01]: All of this consistency added up, and I knew number one, no matter who know, was to get good grades, and I did just that, and I graduated with academic honors, and I also, in my junior year, I attended a basic training for Air Force ROTC, and I went to Dover, Delaware, and I had to bring more consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't know how to mark, so I had remarks every day for six weeks, so consistency, survival training.

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[SPEAKER_01]: of flight orientation, not only did I fly on airplane for the very first time, but Air Force Airplane, but I also flew an Air Force jet.

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[SPEAKER_01]: The second time I was ever, actually the third time I was ever on a plane.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then I went back to school after basic training.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I joined in two year ROTC program.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And again, consistency played a great role because I really was all in with it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So much so that I was asked to be the core commander of Detachment 595 at North Carolina State University.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But I turned it down because I had a job, I had left the electrician job, and I was offering a job at UPS, and I took that job because it really paid well, and it was consistency to help me pay my tuition, my room and board, and everything came together, and then that consistency resulted in me receiving $100 a month, a stipend from Air Force RRTC.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Fast forward two years and I'm graduating, I'm going across the stage, academic honors from Shaw University, Raleigh North Carolina, the oldest HBCU in the South.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Then North Carolina State, crossing road, distinguished graduate of Air Force ROTC.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now this would not have been possible without consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Dark determination and never ever given up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, I'm coming to you at this time and I want you to reflect on the consistency in your life and how it adds up to you to this day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Because with it, we can continue to go on and do great things and make contributions and have that consistency, not just motivation, but we want to lean into leading that building, that legacy that we all have.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now one of the things I want to look at is can I recall when motivation fail you in consistency became your saving grace.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I can point to that exactly and it was doing my after my freshman year between my freshman year of college and my senior my sophomore year.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I went home because I didn't have a job.

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[SPEAKER_01]: The electrician job I didn't

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[SPEAKER_01]: no longer have that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And UPS had not looked at my paperwork.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I had left them yet, and they had not made a decision to harm me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And of course, my hometown in Raleigh, North Carolina, my hometown of Henderson, North Carolina is 50 miles away.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I didn't even have transportation at that time.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So if I had been hired, it would have been 100 mile round trip each day and guess what?

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[SPEAKER_01]: It actually happened.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But let's talk about what this issue is here, is that when motivation failed you, motivation failed me when I took a factory job at Harriet and Henderson Yarn in my hometown, at Henderson North Carolina, after two weeks of work, one of the co-workers came to me and he said to me, and he knew my father and my family, he said to me, we don't like you, college boys coming here taking our jobs.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And he said, if you don't do it, I'm going to cut your throat.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, right.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think so.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I play football.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I know how to hell on myself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And my father's going to be visiting you, Mr. Not only did my father visit him, but also my uncle.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And after that event, I never saw him again.

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[SPEAKER_01]: They did coworker.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, my

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[SPEAKER_01]: My father didn't hurt him, my uncle didn't hurt him, but they left a message for him that if they hit one hand on me or even look at me the wrong way, it's not gonna work out for him.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I did nothing wrong, I showed up and I worked.

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[SPEAKER_01]: He didn't do the work for me, I did my own work and I earned my own money.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But shortly after that, I was not really motivated because I just didn't feel as though that should have been a situation.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I, a couple of weeks, I received a call.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I said, well, who is it from?

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[SPEAKER_01]: My sister, I asked her.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's from UPS.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I let up UPS that sounds great.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was hired.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Show up to work in a couple of days.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I contacted my neighbor who was within walking distance from where I live and I asked her and she was a widow.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She didn't know how to drive but her husband who had passed away.

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[SPEAKER_01]: She said, yes, you can use a car and use it until you're able to forge it on and that's what I did.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so the consistency came up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But here's consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Be good to die neighbor.

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[SPEAKER_01]: and she didn't have to do what she did.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My father, he couldn't do it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me use his vehicle because he had to use that to go to work with my mom every day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so what really turned things around for me was getting that job at UPS because again, it was that resource that I can count on in addition to the tuition I received for my grant for college as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so, really, it became a saving grace.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And what I had mentioned earlier in terms of this question that I'm posing to you as this, can you recall a time when motivation fell to you?

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[SPEAKER_01]: And consistency became your saving grace.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That job at UPS really changed my life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: The job at Harriet Hinson Yarn did not say my life because my life was a really in jeopardy for a little bit there because what if the individual co-worker had not told me that he was going to cut my throat, or attempt to.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I feel that the saving grace was getting away from that negative environment and falling into my consistency of which I worked at UPS for four years, proud of going to the United States Air Force.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So my entire four years of college, I worked.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Young people asked me today, well, how do you do this?

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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you able to do all of that?

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's called W-O-R-K. Work, that's what it's called.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that provided me with the consistency that I needed and it worked.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And here's the next question that I'm going to share with you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll provide an answer.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I also want you to lean into this is how to successful people may obtain consistency when life throws distractions or obstacles their way.

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[SPEAKER_01]: what a wonderful question and I'm going to answer it this way.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Again, the question is, how do successful people maintain consistency when life throws distractions or obstacles their way?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, if all comes down to mindset,

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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you or do you not want to succeed in life?

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[SPEAKER_01]: My answer and I'm very sure your answer is yes, yes, and yes again.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's what's the driving force for me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I had a fire in my belly and I know that you do too.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that fire in the belly is, I don't want to fail.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to succeed.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And everything, understand this.

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[SPEAKER_01]: All of us have the opportunity to control the things we can control in our lives.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And the thing that we can control in our lives more than anything else is ourselves.

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[SPEAKER_01]: All the external factors out there, a plan, a round,

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[SPEAKER_01]: They're happening, but we do not have to embrace it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: We can just focus on ourselves and keep on moving forward.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as I've stated before, two consistency for middle school working from the age of 10 to go into college and working all those four years, ultimately the consistency came in when I was sworn in as the second lieutenant in the United States Air Force.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was commissioned on the day that I graduated from college.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, all that consistency, layers of consistency from middle school, working from the age of 10 and all the way up through college, I have built up consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: A mindset that just told me no, no, no.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not going to have the type of lifestyle I had when I didn't have a pot to cook in, when I was younger.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I had no opportunity.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I created the opportunity.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, that consistency knocked out any distractions.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If there was destruction that came drama from any section, I'm not dealing with drama.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm moving forward.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not looking at the review mirror, I'm looking forward because the only way you can get to your destination is to look forward and that's exactly what you and I are doing in our lives even to this day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's talk about it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: When we look at

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[SPEAKER_01]: obstacles.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't have any obstacles because I knew at the I was sworn in to be an officer in the Air Force that I had a career.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And for 22 years, I served in the United States Air Force.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You talk about consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I had experiences that will knock your socks off.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I did things in life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I never dreamt up and I had the gift of dreams where I can dream things and they actually happen.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I've had this gifts since I was very young and I have it to this day and what I'm sharing right now is the fact that I don't allow obstacles or distractions to bother me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I continue to find a way through up under our round them.

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[SPEAKER_01]: no matter what it happens to be, no matter who is in charge, it doesn't matter.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going through, I don't know about everybody else, but I'm determined that I'm going through, I'm going forward, I'm not letting any distractions stop me, and that's what successful people do.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You may have a bad experience, and it may be called the word failure, but failure has a matching word to it, effort.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Final failure is not final.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Failure is a life lesson, learn from that lesson, don't repeat it and continue to move forward.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's really what's successful people do.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You learn that lesson whether it's a life lesson or business lesson or you just, it wasn't your day, but you can come back because you are born to be victorious.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm here to tell you that inside of you is not external, it's not based on what someone else

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[SPEAKER_01]: our failure is based on you when you look in that mirror every day, you determine your fate and no one else, and that's the way it is.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now the next thing I want to share is the fact that what role the self-leadership play in developing consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So it connects you to lead yourself first.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That framework, and that framework really comes down to you having that awareness, a self-awareness,

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[SPEAKER_01]: self-accountability, you have itself confidence in yourself, strong emotional intelligence, all of these things factor in to who you are as a person.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And once you can lead to yourself, where you have no doubts about your leadership ability, you have self-leadership, it's who you are at that point in your DNA.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then you're positioned to lead other people.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, at granted, over the 22 years I served in the military, I led people.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was being led by top generals in the United States, Air Force, and other parts of the Department of Defense, because I worked at the Pentagon for 12 consecutive years, and I worked for a member of Congress who served on the House Armed Service Committee.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I worked there as well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So you tell me, from a young man who didn't have a pity to go to college,

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[SPEAKER_01]: and how I end up working at the U.S. House of Representatives for the member of Congress and for the top military person in the world at the Department of Defense, who were some amazing leaders, men and women just phenomenal people.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I wanted to be in that number.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to be in that group.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I ended up being in that group because I stayed for 12,

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[SPEAKER_01]: In our wildest dreams, I never would have known that would have happened to me, but it did and the same thing happens for you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But leading yourself first has everything to do with you looking on the inside of yourself, looking at your strengths are easy to pick up, but looking at your weaknesses and tweaking those weaknesses to become the person.

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[SPEAKER_01]: are individual that you are purpose to be.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Living not only with purpose, but also living with passion.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm here to tell you today, you are an amazing human being.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're one of eight billion people on planet Earth, and you are unique, there's no one else like you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You looking at mirror, you admire yourself because you all that and a bag of chips, take my word for it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so when we look at that self leadership plays into developing consistency because you have that strong awareness of who you are and who you are that there is a greater power that's also with you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: When people see you walking down the street, they think you're walking by yourself, they think I'm walking by myself, but I'm not.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I have a greater power that works with me and walks at me every day and directs and order my steps.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to take my word for it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You just have to have it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If you don't have it in your life, you can get it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I have it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not letting it go.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Advoc.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Advoc.

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[SPEAKER_01]: All right, so let's get down to the next question.

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[SPEAKER_01]: How can leaders build daily habits to strengthen their consistency muscle, especially when no one's holding them accountable?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, they're in last-to-home issue.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're accountable to yourself through self-leadership.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And now, the habits that you want to have each day is to map out a plan.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What is your ultimate vision for your life?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Take some time out, get out and note the sheet of paper, get a pen of pencil right now.

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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want your legacy to be?

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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want it to be for yourself as an individual, for your family, for your family, or your family?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Is it?

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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to have an idea of what that is.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I was recently talking to a family member of mine and I was just sharing with him some of the experiences I had.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And he really got bitter about the fact that he said, you don't have to impress me as what he said.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But I really wasn't trying to impress him.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was just sharing what my experience was.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But you don't have things go, haters hate.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you share something as positive or something good in your life,

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[SPEAKER_01]: They don't like it, even if they happen to be in your family.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So what I say to them is, I don't need you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're in my family, but the bottom line is this.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You should not put down someone who's done well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You should try to do well yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's all I'm going to say on that issue.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And if he happens to be listening to this particular episode, that's good for him.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But I, I simply would stay away from the individual because the negativity never has worked for me with anyone.

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[SPEAKER_01]: No matter what part of the world, and I've met people all over the world.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so what I want to say is this, the daily habits is stay away from negative people, stay away from the dream snatchers, stay away from negative people, operate with a positive positivity every simple single day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If you get up and you're blessed enough to be awakened each day, say a prayer, do some meditation, stay on the positive tip, read positive books, do positive things, go to your house and worship, get what's your friends who love you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You've got to have some people that don't like you, but go to and spend more time with the people that love you and care about you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: and want you to do well because you also want them to do well.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And no one is saying that life is perfect, but what our M saying is that you have a choice and the consistency comes in with what you do in the work.

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[SPEAKER_01]: There's no way that your life is going to be good unless you put in the work.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to do it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Your physical body, you have to need at least 10 to 15 minutes a day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're a spiritual man.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You need to get some prayer in there some meditation some fellowship and some praise and get get it in there Nutrition you got to have to really do some research and study up about the a foods that's gonna nourish your body and get in a way from the fast food to process food Segregi foods etc

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so that's how you build daily habits, and you also want to extend that to people that you know, if you're mentoring someone or youth, whatever, I was the president, voted the president of the PTA at my children's school for two years, and I was really about empowering these young people to do more than they think they're possible, doing and working with their parents, to also help them to be a role model for their children and for the education community that we

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so that's what I have on that stuff.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so the next question is, in your opinion, why do so many people rely on motivation and how can they shift toward a consistency mindset?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I'll tell you why a lot of people rely on motivation because it feels good to them.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's say if you listen to one of the top speakers in the world and when you're actually sitting down and you listen to these amazing,

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[SPEAKER_01]: motivational speakers.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It sounds really great.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then maybe sharing a lot about their experience, but what about your experience?

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so as one of my favorite speakers of all time, Zig Ziglar said, motivation is just it's the same as you take in a bath each day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to have to have it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to have motivation and you need to clean your body.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I met Zag at the National Speaks Association convention years ago, and then years later, I interviewed his daughter on my talk radio show at that time, the wealthy speaker talk radio show.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so how can people shift toward a consistency mindset?

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[SPEAKER_01]: again, look at the trends, your own personal life trend, what have been those things that you've done in your life that resulted in a measure of success, and continue to repeat that, and then you grow from that by continuing to become a get your coach,

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[SPEAKER_01]: our intense seminars, or get your book, or even watch movies that show you examples of what other people went through.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'll tell you that most successful people have struggled before they actually attain that level of success that they knew that they deserve in their life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And the same thing, I was true for me.

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[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of people don't know that I'm successful.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't have to share it with them, especially someone who thinks that

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying to impress them of which I'm not, I'm simply sharing my experience with people.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so as a result, shifted to a consistently mindset, it's just all about that dark determination,

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[SPEAKER_01]: wanting to be successful, but knowing that through life, you've had consistency, and you've had success as a result of it, and just simply repeat it, and then really enhance it through more and more expositive experiences.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And the next question I have is, how does consistency compound over time to create not just success, but a legacy?

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, what it does is you have to continue to challenge yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Your mind is one of the most powerful things that you possess.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Life in itself is a gift.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And my quote is always, Life is a gift.

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[SPEAKER_01]: unrap it.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to unrap those gifts that you have.

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[SPEAKER_01]: When you think you've reached the level where there's nothing else that you can learn, then at that point, you might be in trouble because you can always learn something new the next day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And through experiences, all of events will really take you to the next level of your greatness.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, it will compound

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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I would say number one, I was trying to be the best son that I could beat to my parents.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I tried to become the best student that I could be.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I had a lot of people who pour into me, my great aunt, Karen Marrow.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And she really pushed me to Paul Gobion, your bachelor's degree.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Get your master's degree.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I went,

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[SPEAKER_01]: beyond the mastery.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Then, I decided, well, I'll get another master's degree.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's what I did.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I hit all the leadership schools that United States efforts had to offer.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I just made myself also in the community.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I would go out and I would volunteer for different organizations and help them a prisoner-reentry program, helping someone to write their first book, and also helping fundraising for that.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I mentioned I had been on the PTA,

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm adding layers and layers of legacy there.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And as a result, with the PTA, we raised $25,000 for the two years that I was there.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So we raised $50,000 over two years.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And then I speak professionally.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I would go to different corporations, Fortune 500 companies, non-profits, and

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[SPEAKER_01]: and corporation and business is all over the United States and military bases in a 12, 12 city speaking to us all.

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[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of different things that I was doing and then I started the more legacy through the live, a TV show, a progress I had.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And now I have the block, the podcast, welfare academy podcast, so I'm leaving legacy.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I've written three books,

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[SPEAKER_01]: In the individual books, I'm writing a fourth now and then I'm co-author on about three other books.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So right now, I'm at about seven books and I'm a three-time number one best-selling author.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm just getting started.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My goal is to write 10 individual books.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So again, I'll be a legacy in the book Life span of a book is 72 years.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I have some more writing to do.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So now I'm going to get there to the last question and I want to address this with you.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I want you to think about this in terms of yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Now if someone listening feels stuck, constantly starting and stopping, what's one small step they can take today to start being consistent again?

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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that question.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to read it again.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If someone listening feels stuck, constantly starting and stopping, what's one small step they can take today to start being consistent again?

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I would have to say for this particular question, is to put the focus on yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: you're going to have distractions in life with the family of relatives or the environment itself, the society itself, but just put that away, get into a room where it's quiet, it's so quiet that it makes noise.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And just focus on yourself, I know I can do this, and then take the first step, because when you take the first step, the next step is going to be much easier.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And the steps

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[SPEAKER_01]: One step after the other two steps, 100 steps, a thousand steps.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So consistency starts to bill.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's just like if you're going out and I was on the track team.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I've never been on the track team before.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I was out there to prepare to play college football, but I got on the track team to build up my speed and my stamina.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I got out there and my first five meets track me said there.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Half mile, 800 meters, I want them all.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But it was that consistency.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to take this first step.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to take the coaching from amazing coaches at that time.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And after that, the spirit just took over and really drove me to go into pain because it takes pain to do athletics as well as in business.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I pushed beyond that pain to arrive at a level that I knew,

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[SPEAKER_01]: No matter how tough things get, I know I can continue.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I can at least walk one more step.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And if I can walk one more step, I can go a thousand more steps.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I can get knocked down seven times.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm getting up eight times because I'm just not giving up.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not giving in.

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[SPEAKER_01]: I will not allow myself to give up or get in.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's what I say to people who feel stuck.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Do not give up or not give in.

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[SPEAKER_01]: with yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: When you look at that mirror each day, you are saying either king or queen standing in that mirror.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's how you should be saying yourself.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're not alone in human being.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You're right there with the angels.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And so you must be angelic with each and every day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Even though each and every day is not perfect.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Even angels also have

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[SPEAKER_01]: to overcome these things in life.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm hoping that this made a difference for you today and that it really brought you some real, really great insight and in closing what I want to talk about is here's a true motivation without a doubt as a spark.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It feels good but it fades fast.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Consistency is the flame you keep alive through discipline, purpose, and daily decisions.

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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what legacy is built on.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Not what you do once in a while, but what you commit to every single day.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If you want to build something that outlast you, a family legacy, a business, or a body of work that changes lives, consistency must become your lifestyle, not your occasional effort.

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[SPEAKER_01]: throw your whole bay into what you do and you will find yourself of building a wonderful, wonderful legacy, based on consistency, powdered with a little bit of motivation.

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[SPEAKER_01]: But we know consistency will always outdo motivation.

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[SPEAKER_01]: So here's my call to action to you today.

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[SPEAKER_01]: If today's episode remind you that it's not about hype, but habits, take the first step toward Bill and your legacy, subscribe to Well for Academy podcast and share this episode with someone who's been waiting for motivation to strike and remind them consistency wins every time.

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[SPEAKER_01]: You can also contact me and learn more about me at www.w.com.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Paulvanspeaks.com and remember wealth is more than money.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about who you become in the process.

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[SPEAKER_01]: This episode is coming to a close episode, 316, go to Apple Podcasts, rate and review this episode, and also leave a wonderful positive five-star rating.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And evaluate this particular episode and recommend and share it with others, your family, your friends, and your colleagues.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My time is up and I thank you for yours and have a wonderful day and I'll see you on the next episode of wealth academy podcast again.

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[SPEAKER_01]: My name is Paul Lonsman.

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[SPEAKER_01]: It's been an honor to be with you today.

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[SPEAKER_01]: Take good care

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for listening to this episode with Paul and his guest.

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